When we are afraid that we cannot think and act as we truly are, we put ourselves on hold. This is how we can begin to let go of our expectations and pressure and kindly get our desires and needs.
Key Points
Authenticity is related to happiness, confidence and better relationships with ourselves and others, but fear holds us back. Asking our fears about manifesting as our authentic selves helps us understand the barriers to authenticity and how we can overcome them. The practice of affection meditation is one way to build self-confidence and connections between our inner truth and happiness.
Did you know that authenticity is closely related to happiness? Being authentic means feeling home within your body, being accepted by a particular group and being true to our values. It doesn’t come from achieving something outside of us, but a kind of confidence, but no matter what our particular feelings, needs, or skills, we add to our bigger lives and problems. It’s about knowing in depth that it’s sufficient. We remain true to our own personality, spirit, or character despite external pressure.
Authenticity is one of the most important ingredients in creating healthy and sustainable relationships. But it can also be one of the most difficult things to practice on a daily basis. why? The answer is simple: fear. If we really did show up that we really did, did, felt, and did, what was happening within us without increasing ourselves or censoring, then others We are afraid that we may separate from us, or we may be angry, or even feel angry at us. Leave us.
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we should be and accepting who we are actually.”
– Brenne Brown,
Authors and researchers
Reliability: The ultimate practice to let go
Brene Brown, who has studied authenticity over the past decade, wrote in her book The Gifts of Fitfection: Choosing reliability means:
It develops the ability to become incomplete, makes yourself vulnerable and allows you to set boundaries.
If we are not authentic based on deeper emotions and needs, we cannot establish healthy boundaries. (In my last post, I share tools on how to develop caring boundaries and work at home.)
One of the things I personally practice and share with students is choosing to “discomfort with dissatisfaction.” For example, when fear arises, it can feel uncomfortable, and to avoid discomfort, we can be distracted, chased away or pushed away what we really need, but , this is never satisfied in the end.
When we place ourselves personally and professionally, risk is involved. But if we don’t respect our true feelings and needs, they will eventually leak when they don’t expect it, causing harm to ourselves and others. The more you connect to the real self, the easier it will be to live and lead from this place.
Authenticity in action
I was sitting at work with Amy, a student at one of my mindful and wellbeing programs. When she shared her feelings, we spoke to the practice of authenticity. “I’m afraid of sharing something with my husband. I’m afraid of his reaction. So I push it under the rug. Then it happens again a few days later and postponed again. Resembles are built up in me and I begin to feel detached from him. A week later, a wall begins to form between us. I have little connection to myself. I start to feel unfeeling. He asks what’s wrong and realizes I feel far away. My feelings have built up so much that it explodes with anger and frustration We’re going to be in the fight. All of this could have been prevented if I had the courage to share what I really felt and needed.”
Practice of reliability: Four questions for reliability
Think about your recent experiences with partners, friends, family, or colleagues who you would like to be your authentic self but didn’t. Imagine pausing at this height of interaction and asking yourself the following question:
What will happen if I share my experience with this person now? How do you feel if you don’t share what I think and feel? If I wasn’t afraid, what would I say to this person now? How can I share this with more vulnerabilities?
I asked Amy (the student above) these questions, and these were her answers:
If you really shared your truth with your husband, are you afraid of what will happen? He does not love or accept what I want to share, and this will cause conflict, he will be defensive and distant with me. What do you think you don’t share this? I get mad at myself and him for not sharing my feelings or needs. Then I’m probably offensive or far away with him. If you are not afraid, what would you say? “Lovers, I know your mother will be out on a visit next month, but I hope she will be with us for only three days, not a week. I’m sure you’ll be her I understand that I have a close relationship with, but due to our work schedule during her visit, I am often overwhelmed by her requests in addition to our full schedule. The duration of her visits strains our relationship and makes it difficult for her to enjoy the time she is here. She spends half the time with us and with your sister If you spend half the time, I think it’s easy and fun for anyone. I don’t know what the solution is, so I would like your support and welcome your input. I’d like to visit her with a good visit I want to do it, but I know that it is important to you too. Can we both come up with a plan to work for her visit?”
How do you listen to internal and external pressures and make the right decisions?
When we meditate, we can feel the interconnectedness of all beings and take advantage of what is important to us. Authenticity is my important value. I grow my credibility every day by loving myself, by loving myself, by loving myself. It can sometimes be really scary, and fear often appears just before I show my truth. Fear is, “What if someone else doesn’t love or accept this part of me?” They may not, but no one will love or like me. there is no. The result of being authentic and not authentic is that I started living only from some rooms in “Carly Castle” and I put the rest of my time in the closet, sometimes bright, noisy and a bit ridiculous is. Who wants to live that kind of life? I used to live like this before, but it wasn’t fulfilling. So I open my doors, my closet and share these authentic parts of me personally and professionally.
“Love” is defined as wanting oneself or others. It is also something that we need to trust ourselves, be hopeless, and most importantly, to know ourselves completely and completely for what we see. It means trusting to have
The practice of loving and familiarity was my extensive support for credibility. “Love” is defined as wanting oneself or others. It is also something that we need to trust ourselves, be hopeless, and most importantly, to know ourselves completely and completely for what we see. It means trusting to have
8 Ways to Be Your Real Self
Maintain an alignment between what you feel and what you need and what you say and what you are doing. Make value-based choices while taking into account intuition, research and the big picture. Do something every day that reflects your deepest needs, wishes and values. Talk for yourself and ask what you want. Don’t put up with abuse of any kind. Give up designing your actions with a desire to be liked (imperfectly perfect, self!), maintain your boundaries, especially the energy you can be around or take Maintain about the level. Provide your fearful love and compassion.
Continue to learn and grow
Regular meditation practices promote and enhance reliability. When we are careful, we often oppose the truth and knowledge within us, and the truths that are often in the midst of conflicting external forces, pressures and influences. He listens leaning against the problem.
Another way to develop trustworthiness is to set learning goals. This helps you experiment with your identity without feeling like a scammer. You shouldn’t expect to get everything right from the start. We stop trying to protect our comfortable old selves from the threats that change could bring, and explore how we can guide our lives from greater reliability, strength and happiness. It starts to do.
