After all, when we consider ourselves, specifically our values, we become happy. Research supports what is called “value affirmation.” To affirm your value, you may look at the value inventory or list of values. You might use a few value prompts to get the journal, or you might use some value-based questions to chat with friends or partners. Affirming values takes a little time to focus on what checks you out.
And this will enhance our happiness. Because considering what we cherish, it helps drown out the noise.
It helps when our internal voices are comparing, envious, or not measuring. Reminiscing about why we began working towards that goal and why we made life choices we made shakes the sense that our goals are linked to our self-worth. It separates who we are and what we want, what we are currently achieving. It reduces the noise that you should not try again.
It is useful when we are waiting or hoping for a season of life. When reminding us why we are waiting, it makes clear why it is worth the wait. While we wait, we can be comfortable with our own skin, so we release a little to be more patient. It will be a time of reflection on who we have come from the lessons we have learned. And it’s probably time to smile at this person we became. We can reach out to our inner self, reach out to us, cherish and wait.
It helps when we feel irritated and confused with other people’s beliefs. When we clarify personal values, we remind ourselves that values are different from beliefs. Belief is how we proceed. Value is why we care. So, people who have different beliefs than you may very well appreciate the same things as you.
So… are you ready to be a little happier?
Choose what you want to think/diary/chat:
What interests were you having as a child? I’m interested in other kids, what are you?
What benefits are you happy to spend?
What article/media topics are you willing to spend time reading and watching?
If you were chatting in a small group, what topics will keep your interests for a long time?
Then ask yourself why these things are interesting to you. (Click here for the list of values.)
Choose what you want to think/diary/chat:
Do your close friends and older children think you value them?
Do you tend to notice/respect others?
What qualities in your partner make you feel connected/connected?
Do you like to say someone about you?
Choose what you want to think/diary/chat:
If I find myself acting _____, it really bothers me.
If someone says I’m ____, it would make them feel like they really don’t know me.
If anyone says I was _____, I would hurt.
You are worth spending time knowing. You are a valuable person to the people around you. Not for what you have to offer, but for your unique combination of values. You are not for what you are doing, but simply because you are worth it.
Until next time,
Roller
